The last few months of my life have been absolutely hectic. I spent all of May completing my classes and preparing for final exams so I could graduate in June. I was also finishing my internship, writing articles, and looking for a job. I was consistently busy and working hard to prepare for my future. Everything was going fine until the job I got ghosted me after they hired me. I graduated in June with high honors, but I had no idea what to do next. Also, it didn’t help that I lost focus and started making terrible decisions in my life and relationships over the next few months. I stopped doing everything that was helping me get closer to achieving my goals. My life was completely derailed. 

Now it’s November, and I’m finally realizing I need to change if I want my dream life. I just turned 25, and now is the time to be a responsible adult. I’m finally cutting all the distractions that weren’t helping me succeed. This means all my bad habits, friends, relationships, and environment. Basically, anything that’s bringing me down in life. I want to go to how I was before everything started going wrong and get back on track. I’ve noticed that people my age are also going through a “mid-20s life crisis” like I am. So, I thought I would share how I’m learning from my past mistakes for the last months of 2023. By next year, we will be completely back on track and better than ever. Hopefully, my experience will help to inspire you to get your life back on track, too!

Cut out all toxicity in your life

One of the first steps I’m taking to get back on track is cutting out all the toxicity in my life. For some, these can mean toxic friendships, family, or relationships. For others, this could be your job or just your overall environment. Whatever or whoever you feel is holding you back from succeeding. It may be hard at first, especially when you are so used to it being in your life. But it’s better to let it go now than later so you can start moving on. You’ll feel a lot better once it’s finally gone.

Reevaluate your goals

My next step is going back to the goals I set before my life was derailed. I had a lot of things I wanted to achieve over the summer that I never got a chance to do. So, I’m reevaluating these goals to see what should be a priority in my life now. I’m also creating a new plan to complete them this fall and winter. This includes working on manifesting and saying positive affirmations to help better your mindset, too. Always remember to change the plan, not the goal.

Stop your unhealthy habits

I developed a lot of unhealthy habits in the past months that I desperately need to change. I’ve been ruining my sleep schedule by waking up and going to bed late, spending too much time on social media, and just making irresponsible decisions. Replacing these habits with healthy ones, like waking up earlier, spending less time on your phone, and making better choices, will help you complete your goals faster and get you one step closer to getting your life back on track.

Take care of yourself

One of the main things you need to do to get back on track is to take care of yourself. Earlier this year, I made the decision to start prioritizing my mental and physical health. I started exercising, eating healthier, and improving my overall appearance. I was getting very consistent, and I felt so much better. But that all changed around July. I’m not doing this nearly as much as I should now. So, I’m changing this by getting back into my routine. I’m also working with a therapist to find more ways to help my anxiety and depression. Remember, it’s okay to get professional help when you can’t do it on your own.

Set boundaries

One very crucial thing that I feel everyone needs to do is set boundaries. This is something I’ve been told by my therapist as well. Sometimes, it can be hard to say no. If you don’t, people will take advantage of you. Over the past months, there were many situations where I should’ve just said no. I could’ve avoided so many potential issues if I did. But I learned my lesson. So make sure to always stand up for yourself and your standards. Don’t let anyone cross them, even if you feel bad about it. Never tolerate anyone who disrespects your boundaries. Sometimes, it’s okay to be selfish. 

Be comfortable spending time by yourself

After you’ve removed all the toxic relationships from your life, you might start to feel lonely. You can combat this feeling by learning to be comfortable with yourself. You can spend time with yourself by going on solo dates, taking walks, meditating, or doing anything you want so you can get used to the feeling of being alone. You don’t need anyone else to entertain you. Because you will only have yourself in the end.

Start doing what you love again

It is always important to have hobbies. This keeps you from having too much time on your hands to overthink or make bad decisions. It can be therapeutic to have other interests outside of your daily responsibilities. Earlier this year, I lost motivation to do what I loved. So, I’ve decided to pick up all my hobbies again, like writing, posting on my blog, playing piano, and creating content. I’m also learning new skills by taking classes or teaching myself to keep busy.

Have friends who actually support you

Have you ever felt like your friends don’t really support you? I’ve always felt that complete strangers encourage me more than my real friends. It’s even worse when you always do this but never get that same energy in return. If you relate, then it’s probably time to find new friends. I’m doing this by connecting with more people with the same interests as me and just shooting my friendship shot. It may be a little scary at first, and you might feel that you’ll get rejected. But you never know what lifelong friends you’ll make who genuinely support you when you let go of that fear.

Learn from your past mistakes

As I mentioned, I’ve made a lot of mistakes these past few months. The only way I can get over them is to learn from them. This can be done by journaling. I wrote down every bad situation I’ve been in and what I can take away from it. Doing this helps so that I’ll never repeat the same mistake again.

Forgive yourself

If you’re like me, you might be dealing with feelings of regret or guilt because of the decisions you’ve made. The only way you can deal with this is to forgive yourself. You have to stop being so hard on yourself and move on. I do this by accepting the things I can’t change. Stop focusing so much on the past and look forward to the future. I’ve also been reading professional advice to help with these feelings. You have to realize that you are only human and stop punishing yourself.

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So much has suddenly changed in my life since I started writing this post. It has been challenging to deal with this, but overall, I know this is happening for the best. I hope this advice will be helpful for you as we all improve our lives together going into 2024.

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